Introduction

“Do you have any tools to help us?”  “We just need to work on our communication skills.”  “We're desperate, can you teach us some techniques to break this pattern?”
 
I hear this kind of thing time and again.  I can give you what you ask for.  It very likely won’t work – whether it comes from me or from any other therapist.  It's like a bandaid on a cut that needs stitches.  Instead, we need a comprehensive roadmap and more importantly, we have to get to the heart of the matter.

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With that in mind, let's start with "Where You Are"